Is there anything worse for a mom, than seeing your child hurting?

Ok, so I am just going to put it out there as I know many other parents have struggled with these decisions in the past. Obviously, no ones life is all roses and we have agonized over our son's suspected ADHD diagnosis for the past 2 years. We generally rear our children according to the principle of Attachment Parenting (it's kind of old school now) and this is for some people and some it's not. I believe your lifestyle and family choice to be a VERY personal decision. We allow our children to explore their worlds', try not to say "no" in the baby/toddler development stage, but instead re-direct. "We" breastfeed, allow them to co-sleep - eat organically the whole nine yards (for the most part!). So the thought of past teachers recommendation to medicate Jackson makes my heart sink. I have studied this overly diagnosed learning handicap and have tried to be open minded. When (after 3 weeks of school) I recieved the feared phone call at home, that was followed by an all to familiar conversation, I now feel like I have to address this so that my son's beautiful spirit will not continue to be damaged by "recoveries, punishments, and timeouts, harming his self esteem, etc. We have made the appointment with our pediatrician for the phase 1 of the evaluation process as was recommended. What are your thoughts? I am hungry for parent feedback here... He is my first child, so it's hard for me to compare if he is "normal" (i hate that word)